It’s Monday, the week of Thanksgiving. You’re gearing up for turkey, pie, and (let’s be honest) the chaotic wonder of family gatherings. But wait—management just dropped an announcement: you must complete one last training this week. 😕😕😕
Fortunately, they’ve called me, Speak4MC, to guide you through it. And this might be the most important training you’ll ever receive! 🦃
Let’s jump in, because your Thanksgiving success depends on it.
Module 1: Navigating Aunt Linda’s Questions with Motivational Interviewing
Scenario: Aunt Linda, as predictable as the cranberry sauce, asks you: “So, when are you going to settle down?”
Your Response: Use motivational interviewing to reply with: “That’s an interesting thought, Aunt Linda. What makes settling down such an important milestone for you?”
Why This Works:
It gently redirects the conversation, giving Aunt Linda the floor while you enjoy your stuffing.
It avoids creating tension or discomfort.
Bonus: While she’s pondering, you’ve bought time to savor your mashed potatoes.
Pro Tip: If she persists, go full reflection mode:
“It sounds like you’ve really put thought into this.”
“What I hear you saying is that you value family and relationships.”
At this point, Aunt Linda might just agree with herself so enthusiastically that she forgets she asked the question in the first place.
Module 2: Navigating Uncle Jeff’s Political Commentary at the Dinner Table
Scenario: Uncle Jeff decides the stuffing isn’t the only thing that needs to be heated—cue his political commentary.
Your Strategy: Smile warmly and reply: “Uncle Joe, the only inflation I’m focused on right now is the scale after I eat these 3,000 calories. Now, who wants more gravy?”
Why This Works:
Humor lightens the mood and redirects the focus to neutral ground.
You dodge a debate without making anyone feel dismissed.
Gravy is the universal peacekeeper at Thanksgiving.
Pro Tip: If you sense the tension rising, locate the circuit breaker and turn off the power. Nobody can argue in the dark. Just ensure the turkey is already out of the oven before taking this drastic step.
Module 3: Using C.A.P.E. Conversations to Politely Decline a Questionable Dish
Scenario: One of your family members brings their famous gelatin marshmallow surprise casserole, and you know from years of experience that it’s just… not your thing.
Your Response: Kindly channel C.A.P.E. Conversations:
C (Clarify): “Oh, you put so much effort into this! It looks so creative!”
A (Acknowledge): “I know this is one of your specialties, and everyone loves how unique it is.”
P (Pause): Briefly admire it and let the compliment sink in.
E (Express): “I’m trying to pace myself so I can save room for dessert. I’ll grab a smaller bite later!”
Why This Works:
You’re kind without committing to a full plate.
They feel appreciated for their efforts.
You avoid the casserole, guilt-free.
Pro Tip: Always keep a “strategic placement zone” on your plate. That’s where the gelatin casserole can sit until it’s safely cleared from the table.
Module 4: Sharing Gratitude Through Affirmations
Scenario: It’s time to go around the table and share what you’re thankful for. You could stress about what to say, but here’s an easier solution: affirm each other!
Try these affirmations:
“You make this family feel whole.”
“Your presence brings joy to this table.”
“I’m thankful for the laughter you bring into our lives.”
“The love you show inspires me every day.”
“This gathering wouldn’t be the same without you.”
Why This Works:
Gratitude is about connection, not perfection.
These affirmations foster deeper bonds and remind everyone why we’re all together.
No need to overthink—just speak from the heart.
Pro Tip: Don’t forget to include yourself! Say, “I’m thankful for showing up and being present today, imperfections and all.”
You Did It!
Congratulations! You’ve officially completed the Speak4MC Thanksgiving Training Session. Your certificate of completion is in the metaphorical mail.
Not everyone’s Thanksgiving looks the same, and that’s okay. Be grateful for whatever is on your plate, whether it’s turkey or takeout, and appreciate those small moments with the people you love and who love you.
Wishing you an amazing week filled with connection, laughter, and maybe even a little pie.
Happy Thanksgiving!🦃
Which Thanksgiving dish is most likely to have you going back for seconds?
Stuffing
Mashed Potatoes
Turkey
Ham
Disclaimer
Statements in this blog reflect the author's personal opinions and do not represent any other person, company, or organization. This blog aims to provide general knowledge and raise awareness of tools, techniques, people, and organizations that bring about positive change. Readers are strongly encouraged to conduct independent research on the topics discussed. And one more thing: Motivational Interviewing is a powerful tool that should only be used for good, not as a crafty way to sidestep Aunt Linda’s questions at Thanksgiving. If she wants to know who you’re dating, maybe give her a few fun details—she’s asking because she cares (or at least because she’s curious)!
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