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Embracing Change: The Power of Letting Go

“I appreciate what you are doing here, but things aren't going to change. They have tried this before and it never works.”

These words were spoken by an attendee during one of my workshops on managing organizational change. The sentiment behind this statement is something many of us can relate to. Change, especially when it’s linked to past failures, can seem impossible. This resistance to new change often stems from our inability to let go of past experiences, particularly those that were unpleasant or unsuccessful.

When we hold on to past disappointments, failures, or traumas, we often do so because we haven't fully processed these experiences or gained closure. This resistance to letting go can create a mental and emotional burden that weighs us down, making it difficult to move forward and embrace new opportunities. The longer we cling to these past experiences, the heavier they become, and the more they hinder our ability to welcome change.

Understanding the Resistance

Resistance to change often stems from fear. Fear of the unknown, fear of repeating past mistakes, and fear of failure can all contribute to our reluctance to embrace new experiences. When past changes have been unpleasant or unsuccessful, it's natural to develop a protective mechanism that makes us wary of trying again. However, this resistance can prevent us from experiencing growth, learning, and new opportunities.

The Weight of the Past

To illustrate the importance of letting go, consider the following story:

A senior monk and a junior monk were traveling together on a long journey. They had been walking for hours through the dense forest, enjoying the serenity and the sound of nature.

As they continued their journey, they arrived at a fast-flowing river. The water was rushing with such force that it seemed almost impossible to cross. Standing by the river’s edge was a young woman, beautiful and distraught, clearly struggling to find a way across.

Seeing the monks, she approached them, her eyes filled with a mixture of hope and desperation. "Please, can you help me? I need to get across this river, but I'm afraid of the current."

The two monks glanced at one another, a silent understanding passing between them. They had taken vows not to touch a woman, a rule they adhered to with great discipline. The younger monk hesitated, torn between his vows and his compassion for the woman.

Without a word, the senior monk stepped forward. He gently lifted the woman onto his shoulders, waded through the turbulent waters, and carried her to the other side. The woman thanked him profusely, her relief palpable. The senior monk simply nodded, turned back to the river, and continued on his journey.

For the next few hours, the younger monk walked in silence, his mind racing with thoughts. He couldn’t believe what had just happened. How could his mentor, a devout follower of their vows, break such a fundamental rule? The question gnawed at him, growing more insistent with each passing mile.

Finally, unable to contain his turmoil any longer, the younger monk blurted out, “Brother, as monks, we are not permitted to touch a woman. How could you carry her on your shoulders?”

The older monk stopped, turned to his younger companion, and with a calm, wise gaze, replied, “Brother, I set her down on the other side of the river hours ago. Why are you still carrying her?”

The Importance of Letting Go

Like the younger monk in the story, many of us carry the weight of past experiences long after they have ended. Holding on to these experiences can create a mental and emotional burden that prevents us from moving forward. Letting go doesn't mean forgetting or dismissing past experiences. It means acknowledging them, learning from them, and then releasing the hold they have on you. By doing so, you free yourself from the burden of the past and create space for new experiences and opportunities.

Here are some steps to help you let go and embrace change:

  1. Acknowledge Your Feelings: Recognize and accept the emotions associated with past experiences. It's important to allow yourself to feel and process these emotions without judgment.

  2. Reflect and Learn: Take time to reflect on what you learned from past experiences. Understanding the lessons can help you grow and avoid making the same mistakes in the future.

  3. Seek Closure: Find ways to gain closure, whether through conversations, writing, or therapy. Closure helps you move forward with a sense of peace.

  4. Practice Mindfulness: Mindfulness techniques, such as meditation and deep breathing, can help you stay present and reduce the hold of past experiences on your mind.

  5. Embrace New Opportunities: Approach new changes with an open mind and a willingness to learn. Remember that each experience is unique and offers a chance for growth.


Letting go of past experiences is crucial for embracing new changes and opportunities. While it may be challenging to release the hold of the past, doing so can lead to personal growth, increased resilience, and a more fulfilling life. By acknowledging your feelings, reflecting on the lessons learned, seeking closure, and practicing mindfulness, you can lighten your emotional and mental burden and welcome new changes with open arms. Remember, the longer you hold onto the past, the heavier it becomes. Letting go is the key to moving forward and creating a brighter future.

Call to Action

I challenge you to take the first step in letting go. This week, identify something from your past that you are still carrying and make a conscious effort to release it. Whether it's a past failure, a disappointment, or a trauma, acknowledge it, reflect on it, and then let it go before it becomes too heavy to bear.

I'd love to hear from you. The first 5 people to email me at and share what they are putting down or letting go will receive a free copy of my book. Let's support each other on this journey toward embracing and inspiring change.


*Statements on this blog reflect the author's personal opinions and do not represent any other person, company, or organization. The purpose of this blog is to provide general knowledge and to raise awareness of tools, techniques, people, and organizations that bring about positive change. The reader is strongly encouraged to perform independent research about the topics discussed.

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